This is the first part of a three part series. This all has a big part into what I truly think is wrong with society. At the end of this three part series, you will see my view on one of the biggest issues in society, and how it affects everything. I am not saying that this is the solution to all our issues, but I think this can help us understand a big part of them. The last part of this series we will put it all together. In order to understand it all I think we must explore how we function, and how we go about our everyday life with understanding why we do what we do.
The first part to this three part series is validation. Validation? You ask? I say yes validation. I will say this is the bases of everyone’s meaning and what they do in life is for validation. We are all searching for it. Yes, there are those people that will say “I don’t need anyone but myself”. I truly beg to differ. Everyone has, what I call, their line of validation. Validation to make sure that you are still meaningful - I know, I know, I can hear you all saying “not me, I stand on my own”. Well let me put it like this, w hen you have a really hard day who is the first person you call, or talk too? Don’t worry we all have this person, better yet not just one person, but a group of people. Just think about this, say you are having a really tough day so you decide to call your spouse to talk, they don’t pick up, who do you call next? Maybe you call you best friend, a sibling, or even your mom. Yes, that’s right, seems like you are searching right? Yes you are, but what are you searching for? That’s right you’re searching for validation, validation that you still matter.
Let’s look even closer at this. Let’s take the same situation, but your best friend answers, and you tell them what’s up and why you are down, but they happen to be all out of pick-me-up for the day. They are actually having a down day too. How long does that conversation last? You got it, not very long. It’s not that you don’t like them, but they are not giving you what you are searching for. Sounds bad, but it’s true. So what do you do after you talk to them? Yep, you call the next in line, your sibling, and they answer. They happen to have a full charge of pick-me-up, so that conversation goes on, and the search for validation stops. The crazy thing is we have different people to call for the type of validation that we want. If you want to hear something funny to make you laugh, just think what friend you’re going to contact, if that friend isn’t available then who are you going to contact? That’s right your line of validation.
Okay so you start to think what the hell, so you are saying that I am just using people? Well, absolutely not. It’s more of a mutual thing that we call friendship/relationship. Yes I know a lot of you are going to say that I am completely wrong. I challenge you to try to challenge me on this, but don’t go too far with trying that cause like I said this is a three part series so while I will answer your challenge I won’t divulge the next part to this. Yep you got it right; you will have to wait until next blog!!!
Once again thank you for reading and I will be looking forward to your comments on this one!!!